I don’t really know what to do. I'm at my wits end.
I love this community. I love the friends I’ve made here. I love the way we can dive into the weirdest topics and still totally vibe. I don’t think I’d ever find another space where I fit like this. And believe me, I tried.
But sometimes, people start doing sexual stuff right next to me or even with people I’m actively talking to and it just stops everything. It's not full on ERP, but bending over and grinding against their hip or something. But yeah... it stops the whole flow of the conversation, the connection, the fun we were having it all disappears. And because I do not engage in this stuff, I feel like I’ve been pushed out of a space I was part of just moments ago.
And I don’t want to be “that person” who ruins the mood or comes off as judgmental. I know ERP is part of this community, and I respect that, even if it’s not something I take part in. I’m not trying to shame anyone. Or at least I really try hard not to. But I’d be lying if I said I didn’t feel frustrated at times.
It just sucks how powerless I feel when it happens. The only option I have is to walk away quietly. And that doesn’t feel fair. Why should the only way for me to stay comfortable be to leave a space I was already part of?
So all I can really do is basically beg you all:
Please, think about who’s around you. Please read the room. Not every moment is the right one. I’m not asking you to stop being yourselves. Just… don’t forget the rest of us are here too. Especially in non-trash instances.