I consider myself to be a relatively normal, but above masculine and attractive guy. I do very well with women IRL, I am financially successful, go to the gym, and am happily married. I've never had racist views, never had far left winged views either. I'm not even politically active because I consider it a waste of time and mental energy. I've been hooked an BBC/cuckolding/hotwifing porn for like 6 years now. I know that watching too much porn got me into this stuff, but I do think it's kinda strange that all the other fetishes I had previously came and went like flavors of the month, while this one for some reasons sticks around. Ever since I got it 6 years ago, it stuck.
I personally really don't like the humiliation part at all, and think that stuff like BNWO is extremely cringy and pathetic. My hypothesis is that this might be because I am not actually a loser in real life. It makes sense to me that primarily people who have very little self esteem will fall for a fetish like that. I am just a dude with a too high testosterone level who brainwashed myself into wanting to see my wife ride a bbc, I guess...